When a guy gets turned down over and over again (during the seduction process) in his relationship with his wife (or girlfriend) he often attempts to make adjustments.
You are about to learn the 2 deadly mistakes guys make when attempting to correct the problem with their "not in the mood" female partner.
Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 1
Trying to learn how to be an awesome lover. I'm referring to becoming better in bed.
This may shock the hell out of you, but it's the wrong approach.
I'll explain.
Here is what the guy thinks:
The wrong approach: He thinks that if he becomes so good in bed, his wife will want to keep coming back for more.
Every guy thinks this. So just relax, it's normal.
Let's talk about why the thinking is flawed. Again, the guy thinks if he puts on a world class performance she will want it all the time. In reality, it doesn't matter how good you are in bed if you are a lousy sexual salesman she will not buy into your offer. There is a such thing as poor salesmanship. And a poor salesman couldn't sell hundred dollar bills for 50 cents.
Trust me, I've seen poor salesmen in action. And in many cases they will talk themselves out of the sale. They actually end up convincing the person not to buy. Keep this in mind: SEX is the product and SEDUCING (or the word I like to use is SEXUALLY INSPIRING) is the process of selling the product. I'll give you another example.
I could be thinking about eating a bacon cheeseburger from a certain fast food restaurant. I know it tastes great because I had it before, but I'm not inspired to eat it.
But when I see the commercial (which seduces me), I suddenly have a strong urge to have it right now - and as a result I will hop in my car and drive out there to get it.
So it wouldn't matter at all if they kept trying to make the burger better and better and better.
So that is the mistake that guys make. They try to improve the product (i.e. sex or the burger), but NOT the more important part:
The selling process (seduction).
If you have little sexual value, then your mission should be to increase it. And you can increase it. And it's not hard to do.
Just be sure to understand that what you do technically in the bedroom will not matter as much.
Remember, if a woman can cum from thought alone, then that must mean the mental side of things is very important. The great news, is that your sexual salesmanship is based purely (100%) on how effective you are at pressing her emotional and psychological hot buttons.
That's it.
Have you ever been caressing a woman and suddenly she begins to orgasm? I remember one time being alone with a female and things were getting hot and steamy. We still had our clothes on. I began rubbing her all over while kissing her. I stopped kissing her and just focused on rubbing her - in a matter of seconds she began to orgasm.
If you get a woman really turned on, this can happen. It depends on the woman and your sexual value. My point is it wasn't the fact that she was being rubbed that resulted in her cumming. It was the fact that she was being rubbed by someone with sexual value.
So when guys try to learn how to be better in bed, they are not considering the most important part - and that is increasing their sexual value.
The right approach: 1 You must increase your sexual value 2 You must focus on selling (seduction) instead of improving the product (getting better at sex)
Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 2
The wrong approach: Focusing on how you should approach her for sex. This happens when the guy gets rejected and through some sort of perceived logical process he concludes that the rejection was a result of how he approached her.
Here is why the thinking is flawed.
Again, the guy thinks that if he approaches her the *right way*, then she'll be turned on.
The hard fact is: If you have little sexual value it doesn't matter how you approach her. That's like saying:
What would a 900lb woman have to do to get you in the mood?
If she has no sexual value to you, then the answer is nothing (as in nothing will work).
Imagine if you saw her obsessing over how to approach you for sex. That is actually the perfect analogy because guys are more physically turned on (so we tend to associate sexual value with looks), whereas women are more psychologically turned on.
Wouldn't you agree that in order for you to want sex, her sexual value would have to increase? (i.e. by losing weight)
Focusing on how to initiate sex is 100% meaningless if you don't have any sexual value.
If you have done the things to increase your sexual value, it really won't matter how you initiate sex.
The right approach:
1. You must increase your sexual value.
2. You must understand that you do have the ability to increase your sexual value.
Warmly,
Instructor CR James
Author of Super Sex Power: Magnetism
Instructor CR James is the author of the new ebook "The 4 Deadly Mistakes of Wife Seduction". Go to the site to download a copy for FREE (for a limited time)
